Click Baiting & #ing the world


I have posted before about self harming and covered a few points on the matter. Today I want to address the rest of my findings. These are my opinions on current day events and what is shaping our world. I am not a professional psychiatrist nor am I a doctor. I just want to add that this is from a pure writers point of view. As a member of the entertainment community and a consumer of the entertainment industries products I want to give you my opinion on what we are seeing happen today in our world.

Print I Just thought I would let you all know I won NaNoWriMo for the first time. I’m not just playing hooky writing this article. Winking smile 

As you know from my previous post about self harming I feel that we see forms of it across the board in our everyday life as well as in the entertainment industry. We covered many of the forms of self harming that one doesn’t usually think of as being in the category of self harming. We also covered the definition of self harming. You can easily look up the definition for yourself and rationalize what actions, activities, and behaviors including addictions might be in fact self harming.

In this post I want to look at another angle of the new wave of self harming promoting media industries goods. As an Indy Writer I am often encouraged to look at all the books and movies as well as music that have been produced by other independent entertainment individuals for the purpose of evaluating how my work stands up next to theirs. I often have to do research and compare my current project against what is available in a comparative media form. As a parent I am always prescreening the crap that is being put up on media sites we use to find ourselves something to entertain us as a family too. So I have spent some time now rejecting all sorts of media forms. Everything from simple “children’s” programming to more adult geared programming has crossed my path.

A while back I was condemning a current popular book series which has had a movie and sound track created for it as well. It falls into the dystopia genre. It is often referred to as a romantic story by a few people I know. I must say there is nothing romantic about it. Readers get ready because here comes my opinions.

First let me say that I have learned that the genre of romance is not applied to works based on the work actually meeting the defined word romance. It can actually be a disgusting perversion and a total vomitus waste of one’s time and be put into the romance genre. This is true of all other entertainment genres as well. One can no longer assume that the genre label is in any way endorsement of the content matching the actual desired ideals which we once had about certain topics.

To be fair many of even the trashiest books, songs, and movies do have actual plots and a story behind them. I am not saying that someone didn’t actually write out an idea board and seek to create something viable. Also, I am not attacking these available works based on my Christian standards. I have done my best to evaluate based on nonreligious ideals. So with this post I am not trying to sell you Jesus. I am just seeking to point out from a writers perspective some of the disturbing trends we can see if we actually take a look at what is being woven into our current entertainment industries.

I am doing my best to really stay impartial on what is really acceptable entertainment. I even went back and skimmed through some of the worst books, songs, movies, and yes video game reviews that had been reviewed by yours truly in the paste for various reasons. One was the whole self harming issue. Some documentaries were also revisited. I tried to look across the board at the entertainment I had rejected for my kids even. I have tried to set  aside any religious objections and look for what these all have in common.

Yes, even the rejected children’s shows shared common ideals which could be seen in the most shocking documentary. We can see some basic similarities in what is being produced for the public’s entertainment. They can even be seen in the ever popular click baited articles popping up everywhere. We can see them in the hash tags being used too. It is a double standard which has become our new modern theme song.


  We are creating monsters with media standards.

you see we tend to raise an outcry against certain behaviors when we see them on the news having been carried out in real life, yet if it is contained inside our current modern entertainment medias we just can’t get enough of it. As a matter of fact with our genre labels no longer actually reflecting the root word contained in them it leaves us with a whole new issue.

We are now seeing the re-defining  of certain concepts within our society. When you make a point to create a book which you label in the romantic genre and taut as romantic but have the romance defined not as the loving act of enticing emotional response, but have it defined based on depravity and cruelty against one of your characters there is a price to pay.

As we watch the news and see more and more violent acts being done to innocent people we must face the fact that our entertainment industries do play a part in creating the standards which are now being lived out in the real world. We can’t deny that what we view for entertainment does effect us.

It is about ideals. We are horrified over seeing a mother be attacked in her home, raped, and then murdered. Yet if we look at not just main stream media, but the small productions and independent works, we can clearly see portrayals of that very thing happening. Let me be clear, I am not seeking to vilify the media industry or take away from the individual’s responsibility for their own actions.

We need to realize that having a double standard is not going to create the kind of world we want to live in. I want to challenge you to look at the news headlines both world news and your local news then go and look at the available entertainment. Look through your online subscriptions and see what you find. Did you notice anything? Here is something I want you to do too. Watch or read or listen to some of the stuff you would not normally even give the time of day. Ask yourself if what you are witnessing is redefining socially acceptable standards. Then go take a look at what you usually have as your main entertainment… look at it and hold the portrayal of standards against those from the media you normally wouldn’t even waste your time on.  Are you seeing common themes? Are you concerned about the things you are seeing?

I am really concerned about what is being made available and what I am seeing in the news. I can’t help but think that we have started a spiral downwards. We will not see anything good come of the current excepted media standards. When you live in a world that seeks to define romantic endeavors in ways that encourage abusive behaviors, vulgarities, gross acts of indecencies, and does so trying to make those things look desirable and acceptable…. You shouldn’t be shocked to read headlines that mirror entertainment industry content. It gives me hope to see so many outraged at the current horrific news stories. Now if we can just carry it over to being outraged at what is being labeled entertainment I would be very happy.

Is it enough to be horrified when it is a news report and jump on the bandwagon of hash tagging your responses while sharing click bait titled news reports about it?

I can’t help but think about what we see in our news industry too. With the current trend of race baiting and political animosity grooming it is no wonder we are seeing more of it inside our entertainment industries productions. It is not healthy to feed hate and discrimination. So why are we doing it?

Now I want to address those who might say to me back up your just hating on non-Christian content. You are overly religiously sensitive. I am not saying you can’t have your secular media. I am just asking you to stop and think about the things being shown as good. I know very well I will never end rated R and up movies and I won’t be able to stop porn or the new unrated movies which try to pass themselves off as regular entertainment but are just glorified pornos. I am not even holding my breath to change one mind on the songs which are laced with profanity and violence towards others.  I hold no hope of even convincing one person that even without socially unacceptable themes the underlining Omni sexuality is not healthy for us. I just want to put out my opinion in hopes that you will think about it.

We live in a world where a male cartoon character gives birth to a child. A male cow cartoon character gives milk. Women can’t breastfeed in public without being shamed, yet you feel no shame in showing them as objects to be abused under the guise of romance. Children are being kidnapped at school functions, raped and murdered while we are protecting the legal murder of unborn babies. We need to realize that everything we do sends a message. If we do not take a hard look at what our current ideals are breading then the day may come when we wake up to a world we have lost the right to be horrified at.

We need to look at our double standards and make some changes. It is time to stop glorifying things that horrify us when it happens in real life. It isn’t that these media forms are without plot, or without thought, it is that they are being based on the wrong ideals for what is healthy for us as a society.


Pioneer Momma


The costumes and hair styles we got to experience made outdoor education loads of fun! Above is my hair.


The second photograph  is my youngest daughter’s hair.

I think the pioneer women must have taken pride in their braids. I doubt many of them if any used makeup. They lived hard lives filled with hard work.

All the things they had to do each day just to live makes me glad for modern times. Being a mom can be hard, but we have it easy compared to the mothers of old.

I thank God for what we have today! This life I live is easier than I deserve. Here is to the pioneer moms of our past! May we remember their lives and be grateful for the lives we now live.

Walking By Faith

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I always say this bridge is as safe as humanly possible. It was built by man. Man is prone to making mistakes. God, however, doesn’t make mistakes. He is 100% reliable. So when we walk through life we shouldn’t put our faith and trust in things created by men who are prone to err. We should trust in God. Only he can give us perfection.

Today was a rainy day here at camp. Our outdoor education program was a bit upset by weather. I didn’t get to tell the kids about this bridge today. I hope that those who I have talked to really think about what God gives us in the way of assurance.

This is week three for us. We are so glad to be blessed enough to help out! We have one more week to go. I pray we can finish strong.

Give Me Your Eyes O Lord


A friend took this at outdoor education this week. It was our first week and I am actually doing rather well so far. It is fun but also hard work. The physical therapy has been a huge help. It made all the difference.

I think that the best part of helping out is how God changes our view of others. He lets us see each other through his eyes. We learn a lot about our own misguided thoughts and views of others by seeing ourselves in action.

I think often we start out serving God thinking silly thoughts of those he has called us to care for. We go into it looking at them with ideas formed by our prejudices. God wants to strip it away and let us really see not just those we serve, but also ourselves.

I Can’t help but think of one person in particular that I met this week. We both had silly ideas about each other. It was very nice to try to break through our cultural boundaries and form at least a working friendship.

I don’t think either of us fully came to know what the other is really like. I feel sad that I didn’t get to hear their personal testimony of faith. I think we need to praise God more. It is important to testify of his love.

So what I learned this week is that we are all blinded at times by our worldly eyes. We often miss out on opportunities to worship and praise God because we forget to testify of his goodness and faithfulness in our lives.

May God be lifted up higher. May we have our eyes opened to see those around us as he does.

Walking Forward


In life you are often dealt bad turns. Times are not always good. Sixteen years ago I was being operated on to remove a spinal tumor. I had no way of knowing what was to come. I was told to make ready to die. God was making me ready to live.

If you find yourself in a hard situation and facing the worst remember that God grows us and he holds us. When you place your life in his hands you find mercy and grace. He is our hope when all hope is lost. He is our refuge in the midst of life’s storms.

Today I am disabled, but not dead. I am broken, but I can still function. God gives me hope beyond measure. He pours it out into my life. I still have struggles, but I am an over comer! I dare to dream because God is my hope.

If you find that you can’t see how you will make it just walk forward. Go forward with God and let him give you the strength to dare to dream. Dare to live boldly for God.

I am tired right now and maybe this isn’t a glorious well thought out post, but I am blessed to be alive and able to share these thoughts with you.

At Risk

This post is a result of some current research on some of the current day industries. I’ve been taking some time to do character studies of people around me in my area. This led to my looking into some documentaries. Talking to a few people I know and making some disturbing discoveries about trends.
I don’t want to post a doctoral thesis here so I will skip the formalities and get to the heart of the topic.  What causes some people to be more likely to become exploited? That is a question that seems to be fuelng some of today’s research.
There is also a disconnect between the population of areas. It seems we see a great divide in my local area in which we have some of the population being more well off than others.  I’m not talking about those with higher incomes either. 
I think after looking at the faces of many of those who are either trapped by drugs or by other addictions I can safely say that in this country our biggest cause for exploitation is addiction.  Either the person or their family can fall pray to undesirable lifestyle choices. 
Now we can not see the type of exploit that the sweatshop industry has here locally, but we do see other forms of undesirable living conditions. We do have a real problem country wide with sexual exploitation as well as drug affiliated exploitation.
It is clear that those who are more prone to drug and alcohol abuse tend to fall into high risk of being or even doing the exploitation of others.  Addiction leads to the lowering of intellectual efficiency as well as the exposer to undesirable company.  We can actually see even those with higher education and better resources falling prey to addiction then becoming exploited.
I’m not trying to prove any of this.  My goal is to make you stop and think about what we see as growing norms.  It is my view that as long as we continue to normalize the sex industry as well as normalize the use of high level pain killers and make both alcohol as well as other exceptable addictions easier to access that we will see a growth of the exploitation of people in our country.
Now, back to sweatshops,  in those countries they too have other forms of exploitation. Sweatshops workers are often desperate. Desperation can be see in many cases of exploited individuals. It is by far one of the underlying issues that can be observed in those who are at risk for exploitation. 
While we are outraged and appalled at those who own and operate sweatshops that is not often the case with socially acceptable cases of human exploitation. Today’s porn industry as well the social alcohol industry (bars) are two examples of our failure to recognize the behaviors which lead to exploitative lifestyles. Those who become drawn into those socially excepted lifestyles are preyed upon by the very choices they make.  They often once in those situations become desperate for relief from the psychological damage from their exploited behavior then they get drawn into drugs.  It is a cycle of destruction.
So who really is at risk?
Often we are told that those who are not well educated and who come from poorer families are higher level risk for exploitation than those who have a better education and income.  I don’t believe this at all.  I believe that those who are taught social norms such as drinking at bars, and watching not just porn but also rated R  materials as well as in jobs which have physical injuries at a high which cause them to need pain medicine on regular basis are more apt to spiral down into the world of exploitation. Yes, we have those who are low income and uneducated who also are prey for exploitation. It is in my opinion wrong to claime that income and educational differences are to blame for the divide in our society between those being exploited and those who are not.
There are many factors that have created our current epidemic of exploitative lifestyles. It is my current view that if you live on our planet you are at risk of being exploited. If you allow yourself to except current norms and are put into situations which can cause desperate behavior there is, in my opinion, a higher risk of your becoming exploited.
The bias against those who are lower income or who have developmental issues is unwarranted in my view.  Pushing studies based on prejudicial views shouldn’t be excepted.
We need to study the growing and disturbing trends of addiction and exploitation without looking at the individual being weeded into categories of class or education.
If you want an example of educated and wealthy people who have fallen prey to exploitative lifestyles just check out celebrities who are addicted to drugs.  Look at what the reports about high risk individuals say in regards to the poorer population next to what you can see happening to those who are financially stable.
Having money and a degree doesn’t protect you from being a statistic. 
Anyone can be exploited.
It is our choices which are made based on the moral fabric of our souls that either protect us or damn us to destruction via exploitation.
Eroding morals leave us desperate and vulnerable.

Note: Sorry if this is a bit rambled and not well developed. It was written while I was baking cupcakes. Thus it wouldn’t make it as a well thought out thesis basis.
Feel free to express your views on addiction and exploitation.

Deedra Mosley

Choking On Pills

The world today has seen such a bombardment of easy medicine that we now have people who gulp down more pills than food! It seems we have become flooded with pharmaceuticals.

Pills,  potions,  and more…

We have become so awash in pills that often we have unrealistic expectations of the medical community. We want results fast and easy like a McDonald’s $1 menue item. We have gotten away from the active healing process.

Take physical therapy for example.  We are now seeing more people who refuse to do their part in getting their body back into working order. They do just enough to get a prescription for pain killers, but not enough to be free of the pills!

A pill can’t work miracles and heal muscles… The pain might never go away fully,  but it can be fixed by proper use of your body.  Pills drown out the noise of pain, not eliminate it.

Don’t get caught up in the whirlwind of prescription meds. You have to do more than just pop a pill for relief! I’m an advocate for physical therapy and exercise. It has made a huge difference in the life I’m living!

When healing the human body there is no such thing as a quick fix.

Before you pop another pill talk to your doctor about alternatives. Make up your mind to follow through with the harder part of healing.  Join a support group for encouragement. Enlist friends and family to help you with your health care plan.

Don’t loose hope! Fitness and wellness can be yours. It just can’t be had the easy pill way.  Easy is not always best!

As some of you might have guessed I’m back in physical therapy. It has been challenging and painful. Nothing new really. I’m seeing results but not as fast as I want.  That is always how it is.  It is a slow process that leads to long term results.

To me it is worth it.  That is why I  wanted to encourage you to look beyond the easy pills and cheap meds.  If you want a healthier lifestyle it takes physical activity and dedication! I know those are dirty words in today’s world, but true ones. 

May you reach your goals and make your health more than just a trip to the pharmacy!

Deedra Mosley