What is it really like being disabled?
Why would anyone want to be disabled?
There are many answers to the above questions. I am physically disabled and have had the privilege of writing a about my journey several times. I speak out about what I went through often too. I want to share here a post I did last night on my professional Facebook page.
I haven’t talked about disability in a while. I mean to say, I’ve not shared about my disability in a while. Let me start by saying that it is beyond offensive to be treated as though I am ignorant and mentally inferior to those without disabilities.
My disability is a physical one. It is true that often you can’t see my Physical limitations thus it leaves others to assume I’m suffering from mental disability. Your assumptions lead you to treat me as though I’m irrelevant.
My words are ignored and I’m left wondering if you see or hear me at all. It makes you look less intelligent and cold as well as cruel. You, in your attempt to devalue me, have become the one lacking. I’ve gotten to the point I no longer repeat myself nor do I stand waiting for your attention.
You are the fools. I know my brilliant mind and artistic soul, but I know even better the merciful God who permitted my Physical disability which humbles as well as frustrates me. In his wisdom I can now see how those who are mentally challenged are received and treated. You push them aside. Ignore them and walk away while they struggle to reach out to you. It is beyond disgusting. Your behavior is vile.
I’ve been privileged to see clearly the culture of innovation, but for all we have achieved I’ve been horrified to experience the effects it has had on our own vanity. As an international author and up and coming celebrity of the arts I have seen time and again the arrogance of assumption. You look but don’t see and think you must lower yourself to the level of those who are not like you.
The truth is you need to reach up to us. We are not beneath you. We are above. We are above only because we understand that others are just as worthy to be heard and seen as we are. Respect is not based on limitations. There should not be one level of respect for those who are whole and another for those like me.
So where have seen this belittling behavior? In schools, shops, hospitals, and yes, even in churches. It can be found many places and seen in some people who you would not think it of. As an artist and author it is a privileged to be seen and heard. As a physically disabled woman it is a greater honor to see and hear those who are ignored and treated as irrelevant by others.
When people make the mistake and assume I’m mentally disabled I have learned to praise God for the reminder that those who are need my love and attention. They need me to see and hear them. Let me leave you with this question… when was the last time you truly saw and heard what those who you have thought less than you are saying?
Let me challenge you to stop being the stigma propagation towards those who are disabled. Learn to value them for who they are because they are just as human as you. Mental disability and physical disability doesn’t make a human less human.#disability #writerslife #beautifulminds #beautifulsouls #GodsEyes
Now that I have given you a glimpse to what type of treatment disabled people are at times subjected to I want to talk about why people want to be disabled.
It came to my attention that there are those who self harm just to create a disability. They are calling themselves trans disabled. This is now becoming an interesting subject to follow due to the trans gender movement. The trans gender movement sought to establish those who claim to be trans gender as normal and not mentally ill.
Now the trans disabled movement wants the same thing. They are people who desire to be disabled and who will even self harm and self mutilate to achieve that goal. They want to no longer be seen as having a mental illness which causes this behavior.
Why do I want to talk about these people? It is because I am really disabled. I had a tumor which resulted in my physical disability. There is nothing glorious about being disabled. It isn’t something you should desire.
I am aware now of a wonderful movement which is the disability culture movement. It is not about creating art through disability, but rather about helping those, like myself, express our artistic talents in spite of being disabled.
I do not want this wonderful movement to become tainted by those who are trying to rally people for the cause of trans disability groups. Let me be clear when I say I support the disabled because I am disabled. I feel trans Disability persons are mentally ill. I support them getting the help they need to realize they are beautiful and perfectly made as they are. I do not want to have disabilities glorified to the point people will feel the need to harm themselves to join the ranks of the disabled world wide. At the same time I do not want to discourage or dishearten those of us who are disabled.
Physical and mental disabilities are not glorious or glamorous. They cause suffering and at times poor treatment by others as I spoke of in my post above.
I can not let this movement go unspoken of because deep inside me I feel that body modification and self harming is wrong. I want to encourage those around me to embrace who God made you to be. I am against your abusing your body to gain love, attention or acceptance.
Embrace who you are.
Yours In Christ,